The daily life of Spartan and Athenian women were vastly different, because the spartan men lived in the barracks until they reached the age of thirty played a very insignificant part of the daily life while the Athenian man had a life outside the household left a majority of the decision and tasks to the wife to attend to.
In Spartan society the daily life varied due to the governing style in comparison to the Athenian life style, the men lived in the barracks until they were thirty so the women were in charge of the household up until then and still kept about this. The average daily life of the spartan woman consisted of setting the slaves to work cleaning the household, the slaves if there were any would most likely have looked after the mistresses children while she attended to the land which in her own right may have owned or have managed her husbands land while he was away at war, The Spartan woman had a leisurely life, she was free to do as she wished, she may have taken up hobbies during the day, looked after the children, in most cases the Spartan women would not be left to menial tasks to pass the time. (notes)
(Because Sparta's male citizens were required to devote their lives to the military and other forms of public service, Sparta's matrons ran the estates of their husbands. This meant that Spartan wives controlled the family wealth – and, in effect, the entire Spartan agricultural economy. A Spartan citizen was dependent on his wife's efficiency to pay his dues to his dining club and his son's agoge fees.) (H.P. Schrader, 2012, Sparta reconsidered; Spartan women) (5/09/2014)
The daily life of an Athenian woman would consist of looking after the household as she was not to leave the household without a male unless she was attending to religious duties. In the richer Athenian households the family would have owned slaves to deal with menial tasks, but if they did not the wife would be expected to have cleaned the house. sometimes the wife would be undertaking clothing the family by sewing through out the day before preparing the husbands lunch for his brief fifteen minute stop in at the house, the husband was absent from the daily life at the agora or at the council. (C.Grayham, 2007, Ancient Athenian Women, 13/06/2014)
In some cases the wife if she had been taught may have handled the finances in the house as well on top of her daily tasks. (C.Grayham, 2007, Ancient Athenian Women, 13/06/2014) The mistress of the house if she had children was expected to look after them as the husband had little interaction with the children as he was not present, a wet nurse may have been a support for the wife during the day. (Notes)
"A respectable woman's place was at home. There she should look after her children and her family, take care of the household, delegate duties to her servants, guard the property of the family, and make sure that domestic life run smoothly (Xen. Oec. 7-10). If a good wife had performed her duties properly her husband would not have to worry about family matters." (Xenophon cited by K.Kapparis in WOMEN AND FAMILY IN ATHENIAN LAW)
In direct comparison the two households may not have been different; Such as if a rich Athenian household with slaves under the mistresses direction may have led to them being free to lounge around and wait for their husbands while a spartan woman may well have the same circumstances and done the same. Either way their daily lives in some cases may have differed and some may have been similar.